Conquering networking jitters
While social networking sites are on the rise, they
have not yet replaced good 'ole fashion in-person networking.
However, not many people would confess to "enjoying" in-person
networking -- especially as that single person in a room full of
attorneys and/or other professionals you have never met. But,
whether you like it or not, your responsibilities as an attorney
include networking. Rather than despair and let your anxiety
overwhelm you, there are steps that you can take to make networking
more manageable and less daunting. Here are a few tips to help you
- Prepare your pitch.
Having an elevator pitch will help you approach
networking with confidence. Your pitch should describe who you are,
what your practice areas and services are, who your clients are and
how they benefit from your services, what value you bring to your
clients, and how you differ from other firms. The more you practice
your pitch, the more confident you will feel and appear.
- Set goals.
Prepare by setting goals. Know exactly what you want to get out of
your networking and the individuals you meet. This will better
direct your efforts by helping you identify those who can help you
and by asking the right questions.
- Do your due diligence.
Prior to attending a networking event, take some time to learn
about who might also be in attendance. If this is a group-based
event, take a look at the membership list and find those
individuals you would like to connect with. That way, you can
attend with a purpose to seek out those individuals, thus giving
yourself a task to replace any unwanted anxiety. If you are going
to a speaking event, research the speakers and learn something
about the topic. Use that information to help you prepare
open-ended questions and talking points to strike up conversations
- Start with your current network.
Find opportunities among your current network to practice
networking. Being in a familiar place and among familiar faces will
alleviate your fears. You might join a law school or college alumni
group, network among people on your child's sports team, or ask
your current contacts to connect you with others. This also works
well when you attend unfamiliar events. If you have a contact
there, ask him or her to introduce you to other attendees.
- Look for others like you.
Approaching a group of people can be especially nerve wracking.
Instead, look for other people standing alone. It is likely those
people are also trying to muster up the courage to approach others.
Use that as an opportunity to introduce yourself. You might then
partner up with that person to meet additional people.
- Use good body language and listening
When approaching others, make eye contact and smile. While engaged
in conversation, continue to make eye contact, don't look beyond or
away from the person as if you would rather be speaking to someone
else. Use a welcoming and open stance to remain approachable by
others. Employ active and empathetic listening techniques by asking
informational questions, open-ended follow up questions, and
showing genuine curiosity. Know when to stop talking (i.e.
when your listener's eyes glaze over or his/her feet turn away from
you) and to steer the conversation back to the other person.
- Wear your nametag.
Wearing a nametag makes you appear more approachable. With a
nametag, others know you belong at that particular event and aim to
meet people. Others are more likely to recall your name and firm
when it can be viewed multiple times during one conversation.
Because we shake hands with our right hand, affixing your nametag
to your right lapel will help place your name in others' direct
line of sight.
As a featured member benefit, the Massachusetts Bar Association
is providing you with the ideal opportunity to employ these tips
and practice your networking skills at their FREE
"Summer Networking Series" beginning on June 13.
Tip courtesy of Heidi Alexander, Law Office Management Assistance
Published June 6, 2013
To learn more about the Law Practice Management
Section, which is complimentary for all MBA members,
contact LPM Section Chair Thomas J. Barbar or Vice
Chair Cynthia E.